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How to bring up the topic of condom use with a sexual partner?

28.11.2022 klo 12:51 - Produced by Family Federation of Finland
It is normal that the use of condom may make you particularly nervous on the first times you have sex with a new partner. Sometimes it may also seem difficult to talk about the use of a condom. However, it often gets easier to use a condom and talk about it with time and practice.

The use of condom is important as it protects from sexually transmitted diseases and prevents undesired pregnancies. It’s best to practice the use of a condom in advance in your own time. When you are already familiar with condoms it is easier to bring up the topic with your sexual partner.

You can learn to speak about the topic

Speaking about contraception and the use of condoms can sometimes feel difficult, embarrassing or may dampen the mood. Telling the other person that speaking about this makes you nervous or feels embarrassing can make things easier. It is important to remember that the use of contraception is a sign of respect for yourself and your sexual partner. The use of contraception shows that someone is a good guy.

It may be easier to talk about contraception and condom use in a suitable and calm moment before the actual start of sex. No one is a mind reader, and assumptions can lead to misunderstandings. You should ask your sexual partner what kind of contraception you two will use.

By bringing up the topic of condom use, you will show that you are interested in your own wellbeing and that of your partner. Contraception is a shared issue and is the responsibility of all parties taking part in sex.

Everyone finds the right way to bring up the use of condoms, the most important thing is to tell your partner that you wish to use contraception. It is often easier to talk about condom use and sex with time and practice.

What to do if a condom impedes your pleasure

Talking about the use of a condom may also seem challenging if its use impedes your enjoyment of sex. Sometimes a condom may interfere with pleasure if the condom is of the wrong size or shape or causes an allergic reaction. The condom may also weaken the sensation. In all these cases, it is a good idea to find a condom that better suits you. Follow this link to read more about how to choose the right size condom.  When using a condom you should always use a water-based lubricant. Follow this link to learn more about what to do if a condom reduces your enjoyment of sex. Sex is generally more enjoyable when using a condom, as you don’t need to stress about any negative consequences of sex.

 

Topics:  Sexuality

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